Circle of Husbandry: Communication

     I write yet again today because of the massive boredom that I'm looking straight in the face.  Anyways I press on to my thought on being a husband and something everyone who has ever spoken to a person will understand.
     I spoke to my wife this evening (she's working a 24+ hr shift) but I have found that many times when we communicate things become misconstrued and frustration begins to poke its nasty little head around.  But some of what I have lived through even with my grotesque amount of impatience I realize that there is more then just frustration and misguided agendas.  I feel that attitude plays a serious role in your overall ability to communicate with others especially your wife.  Being effective in what you are trying to communicate and how you do so comes directly from an attitude of humility and genuine concern and love.  Love is not merely a physical desire because of the lustrous beauty your lover may have, its not the sexual connection that has been established through time; its the deeper connection spiritually that has been cultivated through hours of all encompassing conversation and the joy of the non-verbal communication that has taken place.
     I think that it has taken me much longer to learn humility then most people but now that I have I feel an utter disappointment for my actions previous to today.  I have found (and been told by my wife) that it is very important to look her in the eyes when talking, I agree but this is a hard one for me when I have done something wrong.  I don't know about any of you but I feel ashamed and stupid for any ridiculous actions that I do because I have an unattainable view of perfection for myself so anything short of that is blatantly unacceptable.  However with this unrealistic expectation it has impeded my ability to really conversate with my beloved.  Now with this new information and outlook I find it imperative to shut down any activities that are going on around us and do my best to focus and take in the information passionately.  This will only benefit us in the long haul because the retention of important information is very impressive to woman, especially since they pretty much know that most of us have that "oooo shiny" kind of attention span.
     So, I conclude that a very large and important aspect of any husband and leader is the ability to clearly and effectively communicate.  Without this, information is lost and a link broken; without this we can survive but nothing will make sense and happiness will fade as the sun sets and as day turns to night.  But with this there can be much clarity and understanding, and growth is the only outcome with this type of environment.

V/R,
Kenne

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